What expectations do you have for yourself as a mother?
Do you want a spotless house? (Yes please!)
Perfectly mannered kids? (Definitely!)
A long list of accomplishments? (Wouldn’t hurt!)
To be known as a ‘supermom’ (Ummm yeah, why not!)
Or better yet the ‘perfect’ mom! (Now we are talking!!!)
If you are like me you may have a picture in your mind of what a mom
ought to be! But is our picture realistic? Or just a glorified status of
what society or what we think we should be?
What if we were just positive?
A positive mom realizes that neither circumstances nor people are perfect. She is realistic in her expectations, recognizing that her spouse and children have weaknesses as well as strengths. And most important, she humbly acknowledges that she has a fair amount of flaws too (DANGIT!)
As moms, we bring a variety of strengths, weaknesses, talents, and faults and that unique (and individual) combination not only makes us who we are, but helps us build a loving and balanced home!
So why are we tempted to compare ourselves to other women? Other moms, working moms, stay at home moms, moms to furry kids, women without kids? Is our objective as a woman to be known as the one who has accomplished the most? To win the race? To get ahead? Don’t you think that one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is to stop comparing ourselves to others and live our lives for ourselves and our families?
Sadly this is where I am currently struggling. I don’t know why because I don’t recall ever comparing myself to others. In the past I haven’t cared what people thought of me nor have I compared what I believed my success in life was to others, but now I do? (What??? WHY???)
Some would say I have too high of expectations, set unrealistic goals, am too hard on myself, others say I am who and where I need to be right now. So here is my new goal, I am going to live in the moment and attempt, yes attempt because it isn’t a habit yet, to be and find the positive in my situations especially when I find myself having doubt, comparing myself to others, when my house isn’t as clean as I want it to be, and when it appears things aren’t falling into place when I think they should.
Today, I live in the quite, joyous expectation of good. ~Ernest Holmes
What if we were just positive?
A positive mom realizes that neither circumstances nor people are perfect. She is realistic in her expectations, recognizing that her spouse and children have weaknesses as well as strengths. And most important, she humbly acknowledges that she has a fair amount of flaws too (DANGIT!)
As moms, we bring a variety of strengths, weaknesses, talents, and faults and that unique (and individual) combination not only makes us who we are, but helps us build a loving and balanced home!
So why are we tempted to compare ourselves to other women? Other moms, working moms, stay at home moms, moms to furry kids, women without kids? Is our objective as a woman to be known as the one who has accomplished the most? To win the race? To get ahead? Don’t you think that one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is to stop comparing ourselves to others and live our lives for ourselves and our families?
Sadly this is where I am currently struggling. I don’t know why because I don’t recall ever comparing myself to others. In the past I haven’t cared what people thought of me nor have I compared what I believed my success in life was to others, but now I do? (What??? WHY???)
Some would say I have too high of expectations, set unrealistic goals, am too hard on myself, others say I am who and where I need to be right now. So here is my new goal, I am going to live in the moment and attempt, yes attempt because it isn’t a habit yet, to be and find the positive in my situations especially when I find myself having doubt, comparing myself to others, when my house isn’t as clean as I want it to be, and when it appears things aren’t falling into place when I think they should.
Today, I live in the quite, joyous expectation of good. ~Ernest Holmes
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